WOW, what a busy few weeks!
I wanted to write about how MUCH Penguin Boy has changed, since this was/IS the WHOLE point.
PB officially left school 8 weeks ago, 2 weeks out for his op and recovery so that has left us 6 weeks. Looking back, 9 weeks ago, he was STRESSED, he was screaming at everything, he refused to get out of bed every day, he couldn’t even manage to spend an hour in the classroom. He was refusing to go out every day, even socially, he was refusing to go out with his respite workers, he was VERY difficult to get dressed every day, he was chewing, everything, his fingers were bleeding, almost daily. He would often attack me and Princess Moo. In fact the day before he finished he had her pinned against a door while he repeatedly punched her and screamed at her. He never hugged us, we couldn’t touch him and every word was yelled at high volume with a hateful, angry tone. CONTROL was massive, PB had to control everything, even down to what we said in the house.
He WAS Broken. Broken down, emotionally, socially……….I was heartbroken for my boy. This was NOT my PB.
This week, Ah this week has been GLORIOUS. Everyday we just have to open his curtains and 5 minutes later he happily wonders downstairs, the FIRST thing he does is say good morning to us all and dish out the hugs. After which he asks what the plan is for the day and can he have his breakfast.
Tuesday this week went went to Penguinopolis and Mama and Dada P got new phones, PB happily sat, for about an hour, he occasionally wondered over to interact with the HUGE touch screen advert, laughing.
Thursday this week we went to Penguins-by-the-sea to see some HE friends and go to a soft play, for FOUR hours PB was off, in another room, he had ONE argument with Princess Moo and he MADE friends, he looked after Moo, when she fell he picked her up and supported her arm while she (fake) limped to me. He walked past a crying toddler and stopped to show some compassion,
‘Oh, what happened? Are you ok? I am so sorry your sad little girl’
Happily, he left, without screaming and running away, quietly did he sit with his ipad on the train and some earphones.
Friday…AH FRIDAY was amazing!!!!! Friday we got up and went to the local cafe for brunch, talking to PB’s former beaver leader and telling her he has earned his Bronze Scout award (which is a pretty big deal). After that we wondered to the pet shop and had a play with some kittens, holding some bunnies and just generally loving small animals. We went to the shop and walked home. Some friends then came over. PB’s best friend J. Both boys were warned that arguments over the xbox would be no playing on it. After about 10 minutes both boys came downstairs, they were in the hall and i heard PB say
‘J, what would YOU like to play, i don’t mind as long as your happy’
OMG, that is HUGE, for PB to relinquish power like that……………………..
THAT is why we took him out of school!!!!